“We must help the child to act for himself, will for himself, think to himself…” – Maria Montessori
What better way to help the child think, will and act for himself than by offering choices? I offer a choice of clothes, diapers, toys (on the shelf), and books to read to him amongst other things. His choices are not random but “thought out.” He usually takes his time to scan the options and smiles a big smile when he makes a choice. Sometimes I test him (for my own research… Please don’t do this) by switching hands or trying to get him to choose again and he always stays with his first choice. This tells me that they are not random.
Decision making is a valuable life skill… why not lay the foundation early? I believe these opportunities also build his self confidence. They let him know I trust that he can make a decision and that I respect his decision. I never provide more than two options, both of which I am comfortable with. In this way, he has freedom, but within limits.
Every time, his smile tells me that he appreciates the opportunity to choose.
It also provides and opportunity to learn what his preferences are.
Enjoy this very brief video.
Live a Good Life!
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Heather · June 11, 2014 at 1:33 pm
I’m so glad I found you! I love your blog and instagram feed….looks like all is going well 😉
nduoma · June 13, 2014 at 5:05 pm
Oh Heather, I was pleasantly surprised to to see your comment. You were my first Montessori teacher and definitely kindled the desire to know more. Yes, all is going very well. Thank you for subscribing.
April Crook Kee · June 12, 2014 at 2:29 pm
I’ve just found your blog and it is great! You are doing WONDERFUL work with your son! I look forward to reading more and going through the archives!
nduoma · June 13, 2014 at 5:04 pm
Thank you April! So glad to have you reading my blog.
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